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Wednesday 19 December 2012

INCREDIBLE INDIA! REALLY?

RAPE. MOLESTS. ACID ATTACKS. EXPLICIT COMMENTS. UNHEALTHY TOUCHES. STARES. ASSAULTS.

The slightest thought of it shakes the soul of every women. Trust me, you can never understand what a woman goes through during that incident and after that. Rape is more mental than physical. It leaves a scar on the very soul of a woman who goes through it.
21 years and everyday when I step out of the house, I have to keep reassuring my parents that I am SAFE. I AM OKAY. I have to listen to all the sick statements made by all kinds of men around me. 
And so that I dont get acid attacks, I am told to IGNORE whatever is heard by me.

WHY?
All these years , I have been scared, because I AM A WOMAN. 
Every Woman is SCARED , because SHE'S A WOMAN. Is it a sin?
Be it a village , a small town, a metropolitan , RAPES and these incidents happen everywhere.
The ones who say, How a woman dresses increases or decreases her chances of getting raped , Answer one simple questions, WHY WOMEN IN VILLAGE ARE RAPED?
The ones who say illiteracy is the CAUSE, that means, Inspector General of Police, SPS RATHORE WAS AN UNEDUCATED, ILLITERATE MAN.
Rapists are Poor. Rape crosses all class lines.  People have been raped by doctors, lawyers, police
officers, and other authority figures.  Because of their social and financial positions, these
offenders are seldom prosecuted for the acts of violence, and their actions are seldom
publicized.
RAPISTS CAUSE RAPE. PERIOD.

Sexual assault is provoked by the victim.  Victims ask for it by their actions,
behaviors, or by the way they dress. The answer is :To say that someone wants to be raped is the same as saying that people ask to be mugged or robbed.  In fact, most rapes are at least partially planned in advance and the victim is often threatened with death or bodily harm if she resists.Sexual assault is not a spontaneous crime of sexual passion.  It is a violent attack on an individual using
sex as a weapon.Sex is used to defile, degrade and destroy a victim’s will and control over her own body.  For the victim, it is a humiliating, near death situation. No person would ask for or deserve such an attack


RAPE IS DONE BY ORDINARY MALE, THEY ARE ALL AROUND YOU, YOU CANNOT SPOT ONE IN THE CROWD, ITS NOT THAT THEY ARE RICH, POOR, EDUCATED, UNEDUCATED. THEY ARE SICK, VERY SICK.

The ubiquitous, unashamed leering on the streets, the attempt of men to just touch you while you travel in a local bus,  or when you are standing in a queue, the various men who follow you in cycles , motorcycles yelling obscenities . The constant vigilance required each time we take an auto, to be sure he was taking the right route. The fear of lecherous policemen on the lookout for young girls out late at night with male friends. The incidents when females tried to protect themselves , they end up in a worse state, they are raped, acid thrown, and are killed or left in a state worse than death. 

Men flaunt their power of gender and abuse it because they can. Just like that politician who will have someone sacked or beaten up if he dares to offend. The rich guy who will mow a passerby down and drive on by.
Take a culture of violence and hierarchy, add the modern Indian woman, newly at large on the streets, on her way to work, college, or a date. The result is horrific sexual assault. 
Women in big cities are an easier target , because they have stepped out of the four walls of the home.But women are not even safe in those four walls.
The studies show that majority of sexual assaults happen either at the victim's or the offender's place.

Every parent of a girl is scared to send her out to do the smallest of things, I have seen girls who are meant for the best of institutions but because of everyday incidences of female molestation and rape are forced by scared parents to drop out of studies, or to study in some institute which is closer to the house. 

It may be comforting to think that the Delhi is the MOST UNSAFE, But the reality as The Hindu says, is that Delhi’s reputation as India’s “rape capital” may be misleading: “There are plenty of other places in India with a higher incidence of reported rape, in population adjusted terms — and Delhi’s record on convicting perpetrators is far higher than the national average.

A Hindustan Times survey conducted with NGO Akshara last year revealed that 95 percent of women in Mumbai — the bastion of cosmopolitanism — have been sexually harassed, and the conviction rate in rape cases in the city is a paltry 7 percent.

Girls of 3  months have been raped too, and so have women of age 40 plus. They are rapes in villages, in every part of the country. Be it DELHI, MUMBAI, CALCUTTA or small villages , or small cities. ITS NOT THE CITY which CAUSES RAPE, but the MEN who are their. 


The people who rape women are men. Unless men stop raping women, it won’t stop.
Therefore, if at all things have to change, they have to be with men. Teach them first. Teach them that they need to learn that women are no objects, they are HUMANS, and are made to be respected not OBJECTIFIED . Teach them that SEX is no WRONG, but doing that without a WOMAN'S permission is a heinous crime. More than the desire or testosterone, it is the cultural ideas or social norms that they they have grown up with, which drive them. Our culture should ask them to stop. Or we have to change our culture.
Stop laughing when you see 10 men singing watching a girl in a song in a movie, STOP OBJECTIFICATION OF WOMEN. SHE IS NOT AN OBJECT TO FULFILL YOUR LUST. SHE'S THE ONE WHERE YOU CAME FROM. 
There was a case of a 17-year-old girl raped by her father, stepfather and several others over the last one year in Kerala. In another incident again in Kerala, a six-year-old girl was allegedly sexually abused by her 40-year-old father for six months after forcing her to drink alcohol.
There is NO SPECIAL CATEGORY THEY BELONG TO. KNOW THIS. THEY CAN BE RIGHT BESIDE YOU.
WHAT IS THE SOLUTION?
Life Imprisonment : WHY NOT? Because that angry man when leaves the jail , would probably teach his progeny how to rape ! You spend on him and he's staying safe in those walls. Nothing would change. HE'S MENTALLY SICK AND 14 YEARS OR MORE WONT CHANGE THAT.
Capital Punishment : RAREST OF RARE CASES. It is saddening but I still fail to understand what is RAREST OF THE RARE CASE? Wasn't the Aruna Shaunbaug Case Rarest of rare? 
Are women everyday raped and sodomized and then strangulated by a chain? ITS HIGH TIME TO REALISE. EVERY RAPE IS RAREST OF RARE. Its worse than being shot by a gun. Its the effect it has on a WOMAN who is the victim of that. By hanging them you kill them in one go, How can you forget the woman who was raped, was tortured every second, when she was being raped, and later when she's asked all the HUMILIATING questions, which question her dignity. She tries to end her life. Sometimes she's left in a state where she's just lying like a dead body. If she's been raped by some rich brat, her family is tortured, killed. 
In result to this, how can you just give capital punishment or life imprisonment?
Its TIME FOR DETERRENT MEASURES. THE MEN WHO HAVE THE AUDACITY TO TOUCH A GIRL PASSING BY , NEED TO KNOW WHAT CAN BE THE CONSEQUENCES OF THIS. Castration is against ARTICLE 21 and DOESNT ARTICLE 21 GIVE US , WOMEN THE RIGHT TO SAFE LIFE? 
THE RIGHT TO FREELY GO OUT WITHOUT HAVING THE THOUGHT OF BEING LECHED BY A RANDOM MAN. THE RIGHT TO HER BODY.  THE RIGHT TO LIVE FREELY WITHOUT TAKING PRECAUTIONS?
DETERRENT MEASURES SO THAT THE NEXT TIME WHEN ANOTHER MAN EYES A WOMAN, HE IS HAS THIS THOUGHT IN THE BACK OF HIS MIND THAT HE'LL GO THROUGH VERSE. DETERRENT MEASURES BECAUSE DECADES HAVE PASSED AND REFORMATIVE MEASURES HAVEN'T GOT THE NUMBER DONE.
DETERRENT MEASURES BECAUSE, THEN THE RAPIST WOULD KNOW, THE AGONY, THE PAIN, WHAT A WOMAN GOES THROUGH.
QUICKER TRIALS , IMPRISONMENT HAVEN'T HELPED. AND WONT. THE SOLUTION HAS TO BE SOMETHING WHICH BRINGS A CHANGE.
WOMEN HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE CAREFREE . WOMEN HAVE A RIGHT OVER THEIR BODIES.WOMEN HAVE A RIGHT TO  BE RESPECTED. WOMEN ARE HUMANS NOT OBJECTS. REALISE THAT. TEACH YOUR SONS THAT.  STOP THE PERSON WHEN YOU SEE HIM DOING THAT. HELP A WOMEN. BE THE SAVIORS. REMEMBER THE GIRL WHOSE BEING LECHED CAN BE YOUR MOTHER OR SISTER OR DAUGHTER OR WIFE TOO.
APPLY WHAT YOU SPEAK. APPLY WHAT YOU THINK . DONT JUST SPEAK. ACT

Monday 17 December 2012

CONFESSIONS PART III!

No work at Office makes me write. So here are a few more confessions! :D

1.I like dogs but only from a distance.
2.I love when people appreciate what I do for them.
3.I love spending time with people I am comfortable with.
4.I prefer handwritten letters and notes more than e-mails.
5.I love making people smile or laugh . It makes me VERY  HAPPY. 
6.I am sentimental about almost everything.
7.When I say I am gonna do anything for you, I am gonna do it, because I love you that much.
8.I can talk to you the whole day , if I am used to you. I am a chatterbox.
9.I love making people feel special all the time and especially on birthdays, so consider yourself lucky if I do that.
10.I love it when people care for me and show it.
11.I love the feeling of warmth when I hug people. 
12.I consider emotions to be a very important part of me, but I wish sometimes I could switch them off. 
13.I always find it impossible to say "NO" to people , I am a "ALWAYS YES" machine.
14.I believe that when you give love with expectations, it lessens it. I think its more of giving then expecting.
15.Sometimes I wish people around me vanish so I could be ALONE, but I fear LONELINESS.
16.I am short-tempered.
17.I love rings. :)
18.I love walking, it gives me more to observer whatever is around.
19.I am very scared of deep water .
20.I am VERY SCARED of LIZARDS. I hate them.



Divya
xx

Week #4. MUMBAI.

Week #4 at work , and MONDAY is LAZY.
No work and all the interns just chilling around. haha. LIFE IS GOOD! :D

Though I love work, and I enjoy doing it, being vella sometimes is fun too, You talk to people around, laugh out loud in real sense, and well, just GOSSIP.
From college nonsense, to how people at work are, or what's good in MUMBAI etc, 
EVERYTHING IS TALKED ABOUT.

Three weeks have been GOOD . Be it work, or the GREAT weekends!
Mumbai has been warm, and welcoming! From associates at work, who are sweet , helpful and fun to work with, to the strangers on the street who help you get to any random place you tell them about .

From eyeing hot guys at marine drive , to even staring at hot females there, everything has been done.
Street shopping, street food, long walks along marine drive , travelling in local trains where people well can KILL YOU for a SEAT.! IT IS FUN!

Then meeting old friends for dinner, talking about all the forgotten stories, just makes up for the feeling of missing home. 
Food from DIFFERENT places everyday. Unplanned meetings, well , Mumbai has been peaceful and calm and refreshing! :)

Last week and then HOME again! :)
Lets see, what is coming up for this week!
As for everything else around, HAPPY, because good interns, good associates .
LIFE IS GOOD. 

Divya
xx

Friday 14 December 2012

QUOTE OF THE DAY : 14.12.12




“Be careful whom you choose to love. This decision will impact your future life and happiness in ways you cannot yet imagine.”



―Toni Coleman

Tuesday 11 December 2012

QUOTE OF THE DAY : 11.12.2012





“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”


― Maya Angelou








Monday 10 December 2012

ANIMEHA SINGH : The FIRST REASON WHY I AM ALIVE till today! :)



I have been thinking since long long to write about HER.
YES , SHE IS ONE PERSON I CAN DIE WITHOUT THOUGHT, AND FOR WHO I CAN KILL anyone ANYONE .!

We met in Grade 9! First time and we never really talked alot , She was one of the HOT topic of discussion, hated , loved, envied by many people and THE BEST PART, : She never gave a FUCK about that! 
We sat together, We spoke about million things, We played dumb charades giving all the c grade movies,
Never did I think that I would end up being this GOOD, and Close Friends with her. 
Phone calls to the classroom talks, we loved each others company, for fighting for each other and getting people migraine attacks, and visiting the Prinicpal's office quite often , we were in the LIMELIGHT all the time!

Her leaving school in Grade 10, is what resulted in our being closer and the BEST OF FRIENDS !
Long STD calls , gossips, missing each other, day to day problems, and YAYYY, we became BEST FRIENDS, infact the BEST of BEST FRIENDS.

She's sexy, She's witty, She's my saviour, She knows my deepest desires, She knows the deepest secrets (shshshshsh) , She knows who I hate, who I want to kill , She's heard me cry, She's made me laugh like crazyy, We have had our tough times disagreeing on things, and there have been times when their was some drifting apart, though we have more of UPS and less of DOWNS .TouchWood!
I owe her a lot of things, what I am today would be the first thing.

We meet very less and whenever we do, PEOPLE AROUND STARE, Because we shout, we run , and we hug each other on roads, metro stations and where not!
I can call her at 4 am and tell her I want to kill someone, or get laid, or marry or I want to do any random thing, and she'll listen to it with utmost attention making me feel good.

She supported me when I wanted to leave college half way and take a drop, She supported me when I had to get rid of this one friend because things weren't working, She supported me when I had noone around to hold on to. 
She tells me about what she wants, we can discuss anything from what happened on our first dates to how we plan to kill this one person in DETAIL and not feel awkward .
Our talks never end, I miss seeing her often , I wish we were in the same city , and had that been the case, the city would have come down. I love  how tiny she is, and she fits in everytime I hug her . 

I admire how HOT my best friend, how AMAZING she is when it comes to EVERYTHING ON THIS PLANET. From Studies to Fashion to handling People, I am proud to have her, I am happy to have her. I am thankful to God to have her! 

Yes, we dont really need to talk 24*7 , and we dont, but when we need each other, WE ARE THERE. and that is what MATTERS. Even if we talk after weeks  or months, NOTHING has changed, we are still as close, we still care, we still love each other, we still share.

She's been there through all the shitty and good times, She's wiped my tears when NOTHING WAS RIGHT, She's heard me ramble shit because I was frustrated.

She's Animeha Singh, She's hot, She's cute, She's intelligent, She's witty, She's AMAZING, She's awesome and more over, She's MY BEST FRIEND, and I admire her TOTALLY!! :)

I hope forever is true when it comes to us, and that we have MORE GREAT TIMES , with less of sadness and more of happiness in our lifes!!

I love you and you know that and even though we don't say it too often I know , whenever I need you, You'll be there always, like you have always been!! 
and You know I'll always be there too!!

Hugs and Kisses,
Divya


Sunday 9 December 2012

CONFESSIONS PART II!

No work . And immense time gives me time for myself and then I pen down confessions, its a good way to well kill time and do something productive as well.
There you go!

1.I sleep better when someone is just even beside me. It gives me a secure feeling.
2.I love winters!! 
3.I love handwritten notes, letter . I still feel email kills the feeling . Its easier but handwritten notes make me happierrrr!
4.I love giving gifts! :D I love getting them too! ;)
5.I love it when a kid falls asleep in my arms, its SO AWESOME!
6.I hate saying goodbye!
7.I have this extra love for making people smile, NOTHING FEELS BETTER.
8.I love it when people call me with different names, well it gives a GOOD FEELING.
9.I shop to forget things that are troubling me!
10.I love it when someone holds my hands and walks ! :)


I guess, That will be all, more next time! :)

Cheerz!

Divya
xx

Thursday 6 December 2012

I try not to THINK too much.

There are times when I just sit and wonder about everything around, ranging from people , to living conditions, to life, to the people I love and everything. I being a very inquisitive person I have 100 questions in my mind all the time.

Many a times I end up thinking about everything that has happened in the past few years, the things, the moments which resulted in some change in me, be it a HUGE or a SMALL one, I ponder over it.
I recall the mistakes I made intentionally or unintentionally and sometimes I wish to just delete it, delete the mistake so that the change it brought wouldnt have taken place.

Its weird, I wonder why would change happen, when the current situation in our head is perfect?
For example : If you are just going along with someone perfectly, you share a bond which noone else does, you understand each other without exchanging words, but then suddenly , ONE THING HAPPENS , and ITS NO MORE THE SAME.
Change is always for the good, they say! I doubt! Why would something change and take away someone whose close to you and leave you hurt , all broken?
You are no more the same . You change. Everything changes. and you have no CHOICE but to DEAL with it.

The whole thinking thing, comes back to the same thing, you have A ZILLION MEMORIES running in your mind, the ones which wont happen again.
Introspection is good, but then it results in bringing back those fond memories of people who are no more around, reason may vary, they might no more be living, or some reason that they left you, or no reason why left etc, but then the grief it brings is the same. You have this needle piercing through your heart . At times you laugh or smile remembering all those GOOD OLD DAYS, and no doubt the HAPPINESS you feel at that time is PURE!

The ones close to me always tell me, that I THINK TOO MUCH. but then even if I try not to, I just end up thinking that.
Over these years, I have had a few people who've been there to make me immune to all these happenings, the ones who I can call and vent my anger on , the ones who dont mind attending my phone calls at 4am , the ones who dont mind if I act just silly and start crying when unknown people are around  .
And I thank god that I have a few of these blessed people to pick me up when LIFE HITS ME! :)

I dont know if its a good or a bad quality , but I try not to THINK too much! :)


Divya
xx

Wednesday 5 December 2012

QUOTE OF THE DAY : 6th December 2012! :)



Quote of the Day:


So far I've learned that every day of your life must be lived to the fullest. Life is about smiling, laughing, and crying. Life is about making the most of what you have and what you're given. It's about keeping relationships and losing them. Life is about falling in love and losing someone you do love.


:)






LIVE.LAUGH.LOVE! :)

End of WEEK #1 . MUMBAI continues to make me Smile! :)

Week One at work was pretty good.
Learning something or the other everyday is GOOD.
I love the environment here, warm people , helpful and ever smiling! :)

You see, its always good to have people around you with not GRIM faces. ! :D
After work, All I was looking forward to was the WEEKEND!

And it was ONE HELL OF A WEEKEND! 
Thanks to my sister and her husband, who gave me awesome company, made me had A TIME OF MY LIFE! GOOD FOOD, GOOD DRINKS, GOOD MUSIC and well FUN FUN FUN! :)

Lazyyy weekends, Long hot Showers, and GOOD PLACES to sit and EAT and CHILL AT! :)
The first local train travel, seeing women rush in like crazy for JUST A SEAT! Standing in this never ending queue for an hour to buy a ticket! and then fighting with the ticket-person because he shut down the window before the time. 

CRAZY and FUN it has been!
I like how's Mumbai been so far! :)
Just that, I just imagine how awesome it would be with all the ones I absolutely miss being with!!! :)

I sat at marine drive, missing these people I could speak my heart out to, share a laugh with, have street food with and just sit in silence, between the cold winds, and the sound of waves! :)

Life is Good. ! :)
I miss home at times, I miss a few people. but MUMBAI you make me Smile! 

Divya
xx

QUOTE OF THE DAYYYY !

Well, I come across numerous quotes everyday! I like many of them.
So from now on, Whenever I like any , I'll post it here!
Sounds good to me! :D


If you like it, SHARE IT! :)

For the LOVE I have for this WONDERFUL GAME : CRICKET!

Surprisingly I was mad , REALLY MAD about the game of CRICKET, since early childhood days, Reason being my brother and daddy.
I have grown up watching all the matches , from tests to one days to any series which ever was going on. It was more than a religion to be true.

I religiously watched five day long test matches, not missing anything. I was this mad about it.
I almost knew the players of various teams, about the game, etc. Though at that time too, I was unable to understand LBW, (leg before wicket) and I still dont! :P

My love for the game and for a few ones grew over time, I had my own dreams about meeting them once in this life ! and I still do have that dream close to my heart.
I dont remember any friend I had at that time who was interested in the game but like I said, it was more than a religion and I religiously followed it.

I still remember reading only the sports section whenever I was told to read the newspaper!
From collecting paper cuttings to praying that ,"GOD MAKE RAHUL DRAVID MARRY ME", I was HEAD OVER HEELS in love with the game! 
From prayers to believing in superstitions , everything that was possible , I did to ensure that India WINS! 

I grew up admiring Rahul Dravid, Sachin Tendulkar, Soarav Ganguly, Gary Kirsten, Glenn McGrath, Steve Waugh etc!
I wrote about it, I watched every match as if I had an exam next day on it, screaming , jumping, and I loved doing it.

I never penned the happiness which a win and sadness that a series loss caused!
Heartbreaking moments and moments when I was jumping in happiness!
It was all a mixed bag of emotions.

Now, I see these marvels retiring its saddening because I wont be able to see them play all over again, May it be Soarav Ganguly or Steve Waugh or McGrath or Rahul, I miss watching them play! 
Probably this thought of not watching these players who were a huge part of my childhood led me to pen down all these random thoughts.

With this thought, I would end this, I hope I meet atleast some of them or one of them in my upcoming life, and that MOMENT would definitely be THE HAPPIEST MOMENT of my Life!

Love Cricket , Love the ones mentioned! :D :)
Cheers!

Divya
xx

Sunday 2 December 2012

HIGH HIGH HIGH! HIGH ON LIFE!

WEEKENDS HAVE THEIR OWN CHARM AND MAGIC!

Back at college, weekends usually were a time where we used to sleep sleep and sleep. and sometimes go out to just eat GOOD food.!

My first weekend at MUMBAI was very different though.
I went to my sister's place, that's Navi Mumbai, Seawoods something!
and I had no idea that this weekend would be so FRIGGIN AWESOME!

GOOD FOOD, GOOD DRINKS AND A PLACE TO DANCE !
And GREAT COMPANY.
I realised how important it is to find people who you can chill , talk and just have a good time with.
Being in Mumbai without your besties or the people you generally hangout with sucks, but then finding two souls who are not your age but are so awesome to be with, is one Great FEELING!
aaaaaaaah!

I love them! If they wouldnt have been here I would have hated the fact that I am in Mumbai and weekend would have been OH SO BORING!

From the start to the end, it was ONE SEXY THING! 
We ate, We drank, We dance, We spoke about everything required, We slept for long hours .

Life is GOOD. Very GOOD indeed.! :)

Though I wish I had a few more people who I could easily hangout with on weekdays . 

Divya
xx